CAREGIVERS SUPPORT AND HOPE?
Not all change is wanted. My Dad lives with Parkinson’s disease. It’s costly, time consuming and emotionally draining. No currently-available drug will cure him, although there is HOPE for future generations and those battling with the changes in those with the disease.
There’s an irony to unwanted change happening to the change expert. Though my background of nutrition and fitness, provides helpful skills and experience, BUT I’m in uncharted waters. I learn every day. And I’ve got a lot more to go.
Here’s some of what I’ve learned so far about dealing with a change you don’t want but can’t avoid: LOOKING AT MY DAD AS A 15 year old girl growing up, it breaks my heart to see Dad go through the changes PARKINSONS disease has on him.
Keep the beautiful moments in the forefront of your mind.
There are plenty of painful moments that threaten to take over your consciousness. I try to balance upsetting thoughts with those of the tender kiss that still takes my breath away,
DAD..placing his hand on top of mine and his beautiful blue eyes when they still twinkle. Or the way that his face lights up when I or another Caregiver sings a song that day and plays a board game.
Be grateful for the big and small acts of kindness that others show you.
Be vulnerable enough to let people you know — or complete strangers — help in ways you would never ask for or even think of.
As they say on airplanes, ‘Put your own oxygen mask on before helping others.’
You cannot help if you are burning out yourself. Take the time to go out with friends, take a walk or whatever makes you happy or gives you a break. Caregivers for through walls that they hit and need a Ola e to unwind.
Be kind to yourself.
You will make silly mistakes due to stress, and big mistakes because you didn’t know any better at the time. Try not to beat yourself up. One day at a time!!!
Don’t be afraid of medical terms or if you don’t understand the doctors.
It’s their job to explain things to you. Ask questions and paraphrase back to ensure understanding. Ask again and again until you feel comfortable understanding the information you need to manage your situation. Sometimes the medical lay gauge can be intimidating and it OK to ask ALOT of questions!!!
Know that others are facing challenges or grieving too.
And they might say or do things that aren’t helpful. But they are trying to do what they think is best. In the event that someone’s attitude or advice is not helping you at all, don’t hesitate to ask for space. ITS OK TO ASK PERMISSION FOR SPACE!!!
Do your best to accept your “new normal.”
There is no point in expecting your life to be like it was before the disease or like that of peers. Your life is different and special now. Do what you can to enjoy it.
For my family, travel was a big part of our lives. We can’t do that as much. But when you can, ask for help or take smaller trips to our locally for an hour or two.
Help others like you find their way.
Take the time to connect and share with others. I’ve been able to help others who are at different places in their journey. In turn, they support me too. We all have a story to share and help others.
Pray for the best and plan for the worst.
You want the best for your loved ones and yourself. Miracles do happen. But also focus on things like financial planning and what to do if and when Dad needs a wheelchair or the disease turns in a different direction.
There are millions of people going through unwanted change, with every imaginable background and story. I hope and encourage what I share will help and encourage hope in your hearts.
TEAM GATEWAY TO A CURE IS
Increasing awareness and education to give hope and comfort to those loved ones challenged with Parkinson’s.
? We all have a loved one!!! ?
? let’s love them with all of our hearts ?